I used to like the idea of having to put on my steamed office slacks, slipping on some nude heels and walking into my super cute office with a gorgeous bag and a match scarf. I stopped like the idea so much after having my daughter. I absolutely hate it now, after having my son. Because, doing that would mean I’d have to leave my children home with someone else, or drop them off at daycare and not be as involved in their day-to-day activities like I would like to. I am a stay-at-home entrepreneur and I love it.
Whether you are already a fellow stay-at-home entrepreneur or here are 3 of the most important things I’ve discovered about being a stay-at-home entrepreneur this year.
I set my own level of work-life balance, I set my own pace, I run my own race
I love that I can set my own schedule, even though sometimes, it’s a bit all over the place. I operate on a 24-hour clock where I fit in all facets of my life. Some days look more traditional, 9-to-5-ish , and some days I go back and forth between work, personal responsibilities a little home improvement and I like that. I can stop my whole world if my child is having a bad day and that’s the way I like it. Sometimes I try to set the times I go to the gym, and set the times I make dinner, and set the times I study, but it doesn’t always work like that and I love it. The flexibility of being an entrepreneur helps me to be a better professional, a better mom and a better wife.
It’s an amazing experience being an entrepreneur. To be able to take my children on this journey is even better. The things I learn in terms of communication, leadership and faith I apply to both my business and my home life. And because they aren’t separate, it makes it an easy fluid transition. I’m not going to have it figured all out. Now that I know that, and now that I accept that, it makes it easier to navigate.
Relationships are important in terms of success and SANITY!
As a stay-at-home entrepreneur, the relationships with other entrepreneurs, teachers, neighborhood leaders, family members, sisters in faith, almost ALL relationships are important. Relationships outside of the home are our safety nets. It’s easy to feel isolated and cut off from the world unless your actually making the effort to get up and get out in the community and connect with other people like you, or maybe the total opposite. Have those mom friends who keep you sane on my rollercoaster parenting journey. Because as moms, as entrepreneurs, we all ride rollercoasters. Having healthy and positive relationships outside of the home helps mentally. It can be your break, your home away from home and something you enjoy engaging in on your down time. (Whenever that is ).
The reality is, even as an entrepreneur alone, you depend on the success of relationships to help build their businesses. Whether it’s for encouragement, mentoring, publicity, finances or more, relationships are an undeniable part of an entrepreneur’s resources. Reaching out when you need help. Asking questions when you can’t figure it out.
Believing in yourself is more important than anything
To be a stay-at-home mother is undervalued by society. To be happy and successful as a mother who doesn’t work, who’s distractions are very few, you’re going to have to believe in yourself even if no one else does. The same goes for entrepreneurs. In the beginning, it’s a challenge just to have faith in your dream. It’s a challenge to believe that you can make six figures from home AND attend every field trip. I didn’t think that my business would reach the milestones that it did this year and I am convinced that the biggest difference in this year, through all of its trials and tribulations was the fact that I believed in myself.
Believing in yourself will help weed out those self sabotaging thoughts of doubt that sneak in when something gets hard or confusing. Believing in yourself will help you stop the cycle that many of us fall in. You have to rise above those insecurities, those fears, those things that you carry into everything you do! One of the biggest differences I’ve noticed about successful people and unsuccessful is the belief that they can make their goals happen. We all deal with vulnerability, uncertainty, and failure. Nobody is above going through these necessary trials. But, how are you handling them? Are you embracing them? Or are you allowing yourself to play the role of the victim and searching for reasons why situations won’t work.
Even with all the struggles, I am convinced that being an entrepreneur has helped me become a better Mom and I’m here for it, all of it. I can’t wait for what else is in store!